-Jealous or Justified?
Dear Jealous or Justified,
Don’t let your boyfriend spin this any other way- you are JUSTIFIED, plain and simple. Given the volume of messages that they swap, combined with the fact that he admitted to deleting some of the content would lead any rational person to think that something fishy is going on. His conversations with this co-worker are taking him away from spending time with you, which is basically the definition of an emotional affair. It sounds like your instincts are pointing you in the right direction, so continue to follow them. (Have you heard the saying “if it looks like a duck, walks like a duck, and quacks like a duck, it’s probably a duck….same concept.) Prepare yourself for a breakup, because it looks like that is where you are headed. Best of luck, and keep your head on straight!
Though your parent’s issue with your girlfriend’s clothing seems to be a bit petty, it may be worth “fixing” in order to keep the peace. Afterall, it would be a very easy change for her to make if it means a lifetime of happiness, right? If you don’t want to bring this up to her in conversation, and I can’t say I blame you, try a more sneaky way of fixing the problem. Buy her a sweater that your parents would like, or better yet, take her shopping and pick something out together for the holiday. If it comes down to it, explain that your parents appreciate more conservative clothing and it would mean a lot to you if she made an effort. Point out that this is important to you because she is important to you- so important, that you are thinking of your future together. (Remind her that you think she always looks amazing…brownie points.) She will hopefully understand and go with the flow, because this is not worth a fight!
Meet the parents
-Afraid & Excited
Dear Afraid & Excited,
Fear not, Straight Talk to the rescue! We have compiled a small list of hostess gifts that you can bring to impress the most discerning of parents during the holidays. First, assess who will be at Thanksgiving. If your girlfriend’s mother and/or grandmother will be there, bring flowers. They don’t have to be fancy or expensive- Trader Joe’s usually has great bouquets that you can split in two for around $10. Pair this with a small gift for the host/hostess such as: a bottle of wine, a wine bottle opener, candy or desserts like fudge, chocolates, or peanut brittle, or our favorite: a holiday ornament for the tree. Don’t go too big or too expensive on any of these items, it’s the thought that counts. Bring your girlfriend with to help you choose something appropriate, because she knows them best!