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My best friend keeps getting mad at me when I get tired of listening to her complain about her husband after they get into an argument. She texts me about it when I’m at work, when I’m spending time with my family or when I’m trying to sleep. I love her to death, but there’s so much drama and it’s tiring. She also doesn’t listen to my advice that I’ve been giving her and I get frustrated. I keep asking her to go see a counselor but she just asks why I can’t be a good friend and be there for her. She’s been distant and I’m not sure I can handle all of her drama anymore.
It sounds like your friendship has entered a place where you are both frustrated and feel lonely. Try getting back to your “old selves” by hanging out and doing something fun (shopping!). Avoid talking about her marriage and explain that you just want to have a day to focus on your friendship. If that does the trick, then work on building your relationship back up from there. If not, take a step back and evaluate if this friendship is really worth it. Remember, sometimes it’s okay to let go.
I need advice. I’m 24 and recently broke up with my first and only girlfriend after 4 years of dating. I’m looking to meet another nice girl, someone who I can buy flowers for, and take out to a restaurant and have fun with. I was wondering the best way to meet new people and if the college has ever thought of having a “speed dating” event?
-Single for Now
Single for now,
Your first breakup is always one of the hardest! Since you mentioned that you recently broke up, take time for yourself before you jump in to a new relationship. You sound like a great guy; remember that relationships can form in the most unlikely places – class, work, friends, etc. As far as we know, the college has never offered any type of dating service, but there are a ton of other options. See our issue of The Courier from last week (October 16th) for more information about online dating. Try websites like eharmony.com, match.com and Coffee Meet Bagel. In the meantime, focus on your interests and passions, and the right person will come along. (Who knows, maybe a Courier reader!)